I am all for discovering new views on (quality of) life and experimenting with new methods to make life even better. Since the moment I met Jennifer Lynn from elegantlivingeveryday.com I was fascinated by her outlook on life and elegance. That’s why I invited her to write a guest post on it for you guys! I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
Are you one of the fortunate 33% of Americans who are happy with their lives? Time Health
We are constantly being bombarded with empty promises from companies who are telling us what we need to improve our lives. It could be material possessions or miracle diet drugs or even driving better cars. We have people trying to buy their happiness and others feeling ashamed that they aren’t as content when they compare themselves to people on television.
It’s no wonder everyone is looking for ways to lift their spirits and fill that void!
But what if I were to say that maybe they’re going about it the wrong way?
Perhaps, being content and finding ways to improve our life doesn’t include money or empty promises, but just ever so slightly tweaking our lifestyle.
It’s about choosing to live elegantly.
You may be asking, “What makes a woman elegant?” Today, I’ll be clarifying a few wonderful characteristics that I hope helps you to further understand this concept.
If I may, please allow me to explain and show you 6 promising ways elegance transformed my life and how I know it can enhance yours.
How To Improve Your Life With Elegance
I would be lying if I said I always chose to live elegantly.
Even in my early twenties, I had not yet fully embraced this lifestyle and like many other people, I was searching for that something special to define my life.
My Nana was quite elegant. She was very old-fashioned and always kept her composure, regardless of the circumstance. She didn’t allow anyone or anything to get the better of her; she was simply graceful. Nana was my answer to the hard question of how to be an elegant woman.
It wasn’t until I got a bit older that I started appreciating her poise and what she had to teach me. She would tell me that being an elegant woman wasn’t something to be brushed off. It was to be treated like a superpower and I was to hone in on it and cultivate it.
So I did and never looked back!
6 Genuine Reasons To Adopt An Elegant Lifestyle
1) Never Underestimate a Powerful Gesture of Generosity
We all know that being generous makes the world a better place. The feeling of doing something for someone else without expecting anything in return can really make you feel amazing. Random acts of kindness bring so much joy to everyone who is involved.
It’s easy to get swept up with how the world seems so selfish and narcissistic, but it doesn’t have to be. You can choose not to accept it. It isn’t as egotistical as you might have presumed.
Besides others benefiting from your selflessness, you are also silently benefiting from it too. It’s about other people’s sensitivities and according to Psychology Today it “…allows us to be more sensitive to ourselves and to give ourselves more value.”
I love the part that says it can add more value to ourselves. That is magical!
It really is something special that when you adapt the elegant lifestyle, you will want to be generous. It will just become who you are and people will start to describe you as benevolent. This leads to being more gentle and accepting of ourselves.
Another word used often for elegance is dignity, which according to Merriam Webster is “the quality state of being worthy.”
One way to be worthy or add worth to yourself is to help the needy or just anyone in general.
2) Cultivate Secrets to Let Your Confidence Soar
These little secrets are incredibly important to your confidence. You can almost think of them as your secret weapons! You might not need them all the time, but for those hard times when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or you’re just not feeling your best, you can really utilize them.
Elegant women always appear to possess a certain quality that makes them radiate beauty and self-assurance. This, like many of their characteristics, doesn’t exist because of what they wear or how expensive their lifestyle is, it’s about who they are as a person.
However, this can be a bit confusing when you are talking about secrets that build up confidence. It can seem contradictory.
It doesn’t matter how old we are, we all have our “safety blanket” that we rely on to help us through rough times.
This can be something we bring with us anywhere and makes us feel invincible. But just like a child with their favorite blanket or toy, we can also feel lost without it.
One of them could be your favorite pair of shoes or a lipstick that you can’t live without. It really can be anything you love, even something spiritual like a morning prayer to give you confidence.
Although being elegant isn’t about materialistic possessions, your secret to confidence can be! This is all very personal, so you must take the time to learn what makes you feel confident.
Some examples include:
– A beautiful haircut
– Simply applied makeup that polishes you off
– Manicured nails
– Your daily devotion in the Bible
– Jeans that fit you just right
– A pair of sunglasses
Experiment with what makes you feel strong and powerful.
3) Education Is A Skill Not To Be Ignored
“The more I live, the more I learn. The more I learn, the more I realize, the less I know.”
– Michel Legrand
Choosing to adopt an elegant life will create an effort towards bettering yourself in every aspect of the word.
One way of doing so is to keep learning. That could mean learning a new language, a new hobby, or just diving into every book you can get your hands on! As mentioned in the quote above, the more you educate yourself, the more you realize how much you don’t know, so we must keep learning!
It’s not because you are forcing yourself to try new things, it’s about developing and holding onto a childlike wonder of life. You will naturally want to expand your mind and being ignorant is simply not a choice.
You will establish an undeniable thirst for it and the only way to quench that thirst will be to keep learning.
Reading is a huge part of educating yourself and learning. I would love to suggest another one of Maud’s great posts, How to Read When You Don’t Have Time. She was able to read 120 books in a year! Now that is an elegant woman! 🙂
4) Finding and Appreciating The Authentic Beauty of Life
When you open your eyes to the world, you see exactly what it has to offer. It might seem scary at first, but you will be splendidly surprised at how beautiful and giving the world is.
We might feel that our society is sad and selfish, but when you choose to look closer, you will see a very generous man helping an elderly woman shovel her driveway. Or you will see innocent children very willing to volunteer at the church to help the needy.
The world is such a wonderful place, but you have to look for it.
When you choose to live elegantly, you see this everywhere. You want to see it, and because you want it, you’ll be so surprised at how often it happens. There really is no other way to brighten your day than seeing these random acts of kindness.
Unfortunately, there is also damage, destruction and wrongdoing. That will never change. Nonetheless, it is hard to appreciate the good when there is never any bad. It’s a little odd, but without the suffering, the good would never be as sweet.
Now, I am not saying that once you choose to embrace an elegant lifestyle, it will all change and be hunky-dory for the rest of your life.
But, what I am saying, is that you will be able to find the good even in the darkest times. It’s almost like you’ve fine-tuned your eyes to search out the good in people and every situation.
This quality really does improve your life tremendously and I recommend that if you only choose one trait to practice, that it’s this one! Your whole outlook on life will be better and you won’t regret it.
You’ll find yourself smiling a lot more when you see the true beauty that life has to offer.
5) Unconditionally Love And Honor Your Remarkable Body
An elegant woman treats her body with respect.
In order to love others and give them the respect they deserve, you must be able to truly love and respect yourself first.
Of course, we are only human, and there are moments of weakness where perhaps we will late night binge on something and regret it the next morning.
However, this is an exception, not the rule.
Being elegant isn’t about never doing anything fun or regrettable, but in all honesty, how fun is eating a whole bag of chips and salsa the next morning? … Exactly! The majority of us hate that we did it!
Self-discipline is an art that takes time to acquire and because we are only mortal beings, it will never be perfect.
But we can all improve honoring our body by practicing and working on it every day.
It’s not only about dieting and food, but also about how we treat ourselves; whether we abuse the sun, not get enough sleep, or even deprive ourselves of water. None of these things lend us to unconditionally love our bodies.
We are only given one body and we need to treat it with the respect it deserves.
There are many times where we may lack motivation or are self-conscious. This is completely normal and although we hate it, Maud has an incredible post on affirmations. One I frequently use is “I take good care of myself.” Check out the post for more wonderful affirmations!
6) Being Delighted By And Truly Cherishing The Finer Things
“My dear girl, you must cultivate a taste for the finer things. Civilized pleasures give meaning to life.”
– Barbara Taylor Bradford
When I say cultivate the finer things in life, I don’t mean to only enjoy classical music, speak in words that only 10% of people understand or think that all popular culture is the devil!
That isn’t what I am expressing at all!
I just want you to see that there is more to life than what you might expect, and by cultivating tastes for certain music, food, dance and entertainment, then that might open your eyes.
I’m not going to define “finer things.” That is subjective and is for you to define for yourself. But whatever you decide it to be, cherish it and truly enjoy it!
This is one of the many traits in my post, 101 Ways of An Elegant Woman.
Embracing elegance and living an elegant lifestyle has so many benefits. The ones listed above are just a few of them, but I find them to be of such importance!
Between being generous, seeing what beauty the world has to offer, and to being in tune with your body, living elegantly can not only enhance your life, but it can elevate it as well.
In closing, I just ask that you give it a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Before I go, here is one of my favorites of Maud’s posts.
Do you think that living elegantly can improve the quality of your life? I would love to hear your thoughts.