You see the word “tribe” everywhere nowadays, but what exactly is a tribe and how can we benefit from belonging to one? Finding my tribe has brought me a lot, so now I want to help you find yours!
What is a tribe?
A tribe is a group of people with a shared cause. I first learned of the phenomenon a few years ago when I read Tribes by Seth Godin. Tribes have one or more leaders who organize the tribe and create motion. The shared cause behind the tribe can be anything, but always derive from wanting something to either change or stay the same.
Godin refers to the leaders of tribes as heretics; people who question the status quo and want something to change (or stay the same). They have a vision and the will to lead.
Why do I want to be in one?
First of all, you are already a part of many different tribes whether you know it or not. Whether it’s political, religious or ethnical, you belong to a collective larger than you and the key is that you do in fact – belong.
Every human needs to belong to a group. Loneliness can be damaging to our physical and mental health. Some studies even linked being lonely to an increased likelihood of mortality by 26% (making it comparable with risk factors like obesity) and it’s said that loneliness can have the same effect on our health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day*. Quite shocking, isn’t it?
In comes tribes
Fortunately, you do not have to feel alone. Anyone can be the leader of a tribe and anyone can join one and share in the joys of connecting with like-minded people. All you have to do is reach out and actively look for your tribe. There’s thousands, maybe even hundreds of thousands of tribes out there and because everyone feels that same need to belong, we want others to join in. You should never feel the fear of being excluded. That’s the beauty of tribes; they are formed around a shared cause and therefore you will be very likely to have common ground with the other people in a tribe. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting a ton of amazing people, most of whom I now call friends, through connecting with them based on common interests.
How do I find my tribe?
Sounds great, huh? So, how do you actually find your tribe? Sometimes you just meet people and you hit it off immediately, but it can be difficult if you don’t have a lot of time or even energy to go out and meet new people. Putting yourself out there might scare you. So here’s some easy ways to meet new people that might be your new tribemates!
I know social media is not the same as real life and online conversations are hardly a substitute for face to face contact. However, social media is an absolutely amazing way of meeting new and like-minded people. I’ve met some wonderful people on social media and I spend a lot of time connecting with people online. Why only ‘fish’ in your own pond, when there’s a whole ocean of awesome fish? (Did she just refer to me as an awesome fish?! Yes, yes I did.)
So, how do you go about meeting potential tribemates on the internet?
If you have an interest, a hobby or a passion, you can use hashtags about those to find other people who are also into these things. When I first started blogging I looked for things like #blogger and #blogging on Twitter and Instagram to find other people who were also into blogging. You can do this with (almost) every topic out there. It basically gives you a list of potential friends.
Be active on pages about the topic you find interesting. There’s probably influencers and organizations that have a page on any social media platform for your “thing”. Comment on their pictures, participate in Twitter chats, reply on forums and see who else is actively engaging. Those are also people who are passionate about this topic and would probably love to meet you and talk!
Don’t be shy
Now all you have to do is reach out to them. You can send them a message or just interact with their content and see what happens. People usually don’t bite and enjoy hearing from people who like the same things. If they don’t respond nicely, they’re probably not people you want to hang around anyway, so no loss there (except on their end for losing out on being friends with someone as cool as you).
Let’s be tribemates!
To make finding like-minded, awesome people a bit easier for you, I decided to start a Facebook group where you can easily connect and engage with other people looking for new friends. After all, we have a shared cause too. The cause of finding your passions and purpose and becoming the happiest person you know. We’re all into personal development, so let’s connect!
The group is made for sharing anything related to (finding your) passions and personal development. Let’s keep it a positive, safe space and be nice to your fellow humans. Let’s make sure everyone feels welcome!
Here’s the link to the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mypassionprojectstribe/
See you there!
With much love,